20 Healthy Relationship Hacks from 7 Married Women

A daily hug does a relationship good. It also increases the release of the “happy hormone,” serotonin.

A daily hug does a relationship good. It also increases the release of the “happy hormone,” serotonin.

Even the strongest of couples can fall into a relationship rut. These 20 healthy relationship hacks from seven married women (including me) were too good not to share. Written by the besties of a soon-to-be bride marrying a man, these tidbits on everything from communication to sex can certainly be applied to all kinds of couples. Some are serious, some are funny, but all are 100% authentic and tried-and-true advice. Enjoy!

Talk in each other’s “ love languages .”

Talk in each other’s “love languages.”

  1. Just because the hubs says “yes” or agrees to something doesn’t mean he also has to be happy about it. One isn’t necessary for the other.  Take the “yes”!

  2. The "love languages" approach works. Talk in his language, not yours (even if it means you are giving praise ALL THE FUCKING TIME).  

  3. Ask for what you want. Every time. He can’t read your mind.

  4. Never forget what drew you to each other in the very beginning and remind yourselves of those things often. 

  5. When you are mad at each other, play some of your favorite songs and let that smooth those ruffled feathers. Sometimes other people’s words are better than your own.

  6. Don’t take each other’s actions for granted. Always say please and thank you for even the small things.

  7. Remember: It’s not always rainbows and cupcakes. Sometimes it’s rat traps and icy sidewalks. Let go of any negativity, grab a cocktail and enjoy the absurd life together no matter what. 

  8. Smoke cannabis and take your CBD daily (it will make you both think you have telepathic powers and can read each other’s minds…total key to bliss ).

  9. Communication is the key, even though it’s sometimes the hardest thing, talk, about anything on your mind, always, even if he isn’t listening or passed out on the couch.

  10. Cheesy, but, love unconditionally & without expectations. Even in the hardest moments, reflect back on how he made you feel when sparks flew ⚡️

  11. Attack the problem not the person.

  12. Not every day will be perfect, or even good, and that is ok! (it's normal)

  13. Always determine if you are going to share or split a meal. (The key to harmonious restaurant eating and life in general.)

  14. Never talk about anything important after two drinks. 

  15. Just do it!!!! It’s like working out—you don’t always feel like it, but after it’s over, you will be glad you did. 

  16. Adventures: Take them together with your eyes wide open and holding hands. Those memories are the foundation that will make your love last after the lust starts to fade on the day to day. 

  17. Don’t expect him to be your everything… he will never live up to those expectations so keep your girlfriends as a priority in your life. They will always be able to fill the gaps. 

  18. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is too short to be mad about stuff that’s not important!

  19. Ask about each other’s day. Take a few minutes every day to discuss what you did or how you felt that day. If the answer to “how was your day” is typically “fine,” change the question to “what was your favorite thing that happened today?” to promote a little conversation. Oh, and give a big ol’ hug while you’re at it.

  20. Trust your gut instincts. (Have a hard time doing that? Check out this blog to Learn 4 Ways to Become More Intuitive—Advice From a Psychic.)

So, what’s your top healthy relationship hack? Share it with us!


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